CSW 193: How to Stand Up for Yourself Without Being a Jerk with Amy E. SmithAmy E. Smith is a certified and credentialed confidence coach, masterful speaker, and personal empowerment expert. Owner and founder of Joy Junkie Enterprises, Amy uses her roles as coach, writer, podcaster, and speaker to move individuals beyond limiting beliefs and sabotaging mindsets to a place of radical personal empowerment and self-love.

With acute focus on helping people “find their voice,” Amy uses her popular weekly podcast, The Joy Junkie Show, to address issues of worthiness, self-confidence, and letting go of people-pleasing to assist listeners in creating and living radically joyful lives. Co-founder of TheSelfLoveRevolution.com, Amy has been instrumental in aiding hundreds of women in stepping into their authentic power and craft lives they desire. She is highly sought after for her uncommon style of irreverence, wisdom, and humor and has been a featured expert on Fox 5 San Diego and YourTango.com.

Start stalking Amy at www.TheJoyJunkie.com and grab a free copy of her eWorkbook/Audiobook, Stand Up for Yourself Without Being a Dick: 9 Proven Challenges to Radically Improve Your Self-Confidence and Self-Love.

In this episode we talked about:

  • Amy’s story & what lead her to the work that she is currently doing
  • The importance of finding the hybrid of assertiveness and kindness
  • The biggest regret that people face at the end of their lives
  • Understanding how other people might be impacted by you but not taking responsibility for someone else’s feelings
  • Putting limits on your time
  • Externally imposed guilt versus internal guilt and how to manage both
  • When it is appropriate to feel guilt and when we guilt is mislabeled
  • Tips for establishing boundaries in different scenarios

Mentioned In This Episode

Book Yourself Solid by Michael Port (aff link; or click here for a non-aff link)
The Top Five Regrets of the Dying by Bonnie Ware (aff link; or click here for a non-aff link)
Dare to Lead by Brene Brown (aff link; or click here for a non-aff link)

Something Cool

Melissa’s Something Cool: YNAB

Amy’s Something Cool: Voxer

Connect with Amy

Website | Stand up for Yourself without Being a Dick | Facebook Community | Instagram

Quotes

“I always felt very strongly that I cannot be telling people to be their authentic self, coach speak for just be yourself and speak up for the things that you find offensive or your time, your energy. I couldn’t do those things if I was still masquerading being what I thought would be a ‘professional life coach’ or a speaker. It would just not be congruent.” – Amy E. Smith

“I wore a mask for many years.” – Amy E. Smith

“It wasn’t until many, many moons later that I realize that you can actually speak up for yourself, you can establish a boundary, and do it kindly.” – Amy E. Smith

“My whole life, because I’m female, I was programmed that your feelings are more important than my feelings and you know what, screw that. I am now taking a stand and saying, ‘no, my feelings are most important.’” – Melissa Dinwiddie

“We twist and conform to these ideas that everybody else’s approval or validity must equate our self-worth instead of going internal.” – Amy E. Smith

“Be gentle with your journey in this regard and know that any baby step is truly a step in the right direction.” – Amy E. Smith

“When you set a limit, the universe throws things at you to test.” – Melissa Dinwiddie

“You’re only being a bitch if you’re actually being a bitch.” – Amy E. Smith

“Please be compassionate. If it’s just one invite that you decline or you tell one person to please not say that in your company, that is a huge step and this takes fierce courage and bravery because we’re bucking a system that is telling us to behave a completely different way.” – Amy E. Smith

Enjoy!

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