CSW 190: The Playful Path to Love and Dating Over 40 with Macy MatarrazzoMacy Harjot Matarazzo, AKA Reverend Lunchlady, is a Love Coach, Spiritual Teacher & Unicorn Wrangler. A first-time bride at 43 with over 25 years collecting failed relationships, devastating heartbreaks, & dateless holiday parties before she finally found the formula which broke the painful cycle! Now she devotes her life to helping other women stop the madness and draw in a meaningful love. She brings her clients a magical combination of transformational change methodology, Kundalini yoga & creative exploration to help women find their unicorn.

We talked about the playful path to love and dating over 40.

In this episode we talked about:

  • The formula that finally broke the painful cycle of heartbreak for Macy
  • The wake-up call that caused her to change her perspective on dating and being herself in a relationship
  • When she met her beloved husband & how she felt when she first met him
  • The qualities that are truly important and why your “deal breakers” could be keeping you from seeing your beloved
  • How important it is to know what you like & don’t like
  • Macy’s approach to working with women & the three stages of her work
  • How Macy incorporates community into her services

Mentioned In This Episode

The Four Man Plan by Cindy Lu (aff link; or click here for a non-aff link)

Something Cool

Melissa’s Something Cool: Roomba robot vacuum, & paying extra to buy from Hammacher-Schlemmer for a lifetime guarantee

Macy’s Something Cool: using Mala beads as a practice and specifically her own Malas with “you go girl” beads throughout

Connect with Macy

Website | Instagram | Linkedin | Facebook


“It came to the point where I realized I absolutely had to do something different because what I had been doing for so long just continued to leave me feeling heartbroken and miserable.” – Macy Matarazzo

“Either I am going to make myself like being single and collect more chihuahuas and adorable kitties and let that be my life or figure it out.” – Macy Matarazzo

“The formula ended up being getting some support to figure out where I was hiding, in a way.” – Macy Matarazzo

“I had fallen in love with what I wanted him to be and he had fallen in love with he wanted me to be and we were not those people.” – Melissa Dinwiddie

“He didn’t look like what I thought I was looking for.” – Melissa Dinwiddie

“I thought nobody is going to want me and I’m going to have to pretend that I care about biking.” – Macy Matarazzo

“You can’t call in the right person for you if you don’t even know what you like and who you are.” – Melissa Dinwiddie

“I started collecting these failed relationships and it influenced how I responded in the next relationships. I was afraid to do this or afraid to do that or avoiding this or avoiding that. I was actually getting further away from my truth of who I was because I was reacting to all of the stories to all of the history.” – Macy Matarazzo

“There’s never going to be a happy ending to a miserable journey.” – Macy Matarazzo

“I find creative ways to help people come back to themselves.” – Macy Matarazzo


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