CSW 188: Rythea Lee Uses Humor to Help Us Heal Self-HatredRythea Lee is a professional dancer and multi-disciplinary artist giving voice to personal and shared stories of healing. She’s an author, a singer-songwriter, a painter, a poet, and an all-around creative devotee. Her online show, Advice From a Loving Bitch, is her newest passion, teaching people to heal self-hatred through humor and emotional education.

Rythea is a proud Mom, a teacher of Peer to Peer Counseling, a trauma therapist for 24 years. She loves to help people free themselves and become fully expressive. She does this through her own rigorous inner work and through modeling courage.

In this episode we talked about:

  • The catalyst for Rythea starting her show, Advice From a Loving Bitch
  • Some of the subjects that she covers in the show
  • What the process was like for her to create her show
  • Her experience with her own self-hatred as she created the first season
  • What enabled Rythea to push through her own thoughts of self-hatred to create Advice From a Loving Bitch
  • The importance of self-awareness in combating self-hatred and moving towards self-compassion
  • The healing that can come from addressing pain and heartbreak
  • Rythea’s approach of un-schooling her daughter
  • Her relationship with dance & what first inspired her to merge her writing and movement

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Connect with Rythea Lee

Website | Advice From A Loving Bitch | Instagram


“Self-hatred thrives on being silenced. It thrives on being hidden and so the whole series is about getting it out in the open, looking at it, and even exaggerating it so you can grapple with it and wrestle with it and begin to understand the roots of it.” – Rythea Lee

“We have this sweet, whole, loving innocent child inside of us and when we’re criticizing ourselves that’s who we’re basically annihilating.” – Rythea Lee

“I was battling my self-hatred at this whole other level trying to demonstrate and illustrate what it was. I would have the most intense backlashes after each episode or sometimes during it like my self-hatred would just try to kill me while I was making the episode.” – Rythea Lee

“We figure out how to do it by doing it. We grow into it by doing it.” – Melissa Dinwiddie

“Exposing my most vulnerable self has really worked for me. It has really served me.” – Rythea Lee

“You can’t bring that voice of self-love in without the self-awareness that it’s needed.” – Melissa Dinwiddie

“The love and the pain are in the same box. If you don’t go to the pain, you’re not going to get the love. You won’t get the joy. They are the same, they are all mushed together.” – Rythea Lee

“The way to heal a broken heart, for me, is to let someone else in.” – Melissa Dinwiddie

“We, as humans, that’s what we do is create.” – Melissa Dinwiddie


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